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Have you ever heard of the term “soul ties”? I’m not going to spend a lot of time talking about them, but I think it’s important to be aware of what they are, how they affect us and what to do about them. Let me start by asking you the following questions:
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Do you ever find yourself thinking off and on about an old boyfriend you had long ago?
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Do you ever find yourself thinking about sexual encounters you had before marriage with an old flame?
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Do you ever find yourself wondering what it would be like to see an old boyfriend again? Does that excite something in you when you think about it?
Many women I have interviewed admitted to thinking about old flames and fantasizing what it would be like to see that person again. Sometimes, they feel a longing inside of them to get back in touch with them again. I believe a lot of what causes that is due to soul ties that were formed and never broken.
A soul tie is exactly what it sounds like. It’s a tie from one person’s soul to another. The soul is said to be made up of the mind, will and emotions. An example of a soul tie with someone might be a relationship where you have related on a “soul” level. For example, if you have had a relationship with someone of the opposite sex where you shared your hopes, dreams, hurts and disappointments, you related to each other on a “soul” level.
There are godly and ungodly soul ties. To see what a godly soul tie looks like see 1 Samuel 18:1-4. The relationship between David and Jonathan was a godly soul tie. There are ungodly soul ties of many kinds. The one I am focusing on is one that involves a soul tie that becomes sexual at any level.
If you are one that thinks often about an old flame, check to see if there was any level of sexuality involved. Even if you were not physical, maybe there were sexual thoughts about the other person. Perhaps you shared your hopes and dreams with each other. If you are single and are dating someone, I’m not saying you cannot share your dreams with him. However, if you are sexually active with him at any level, you have formed a soul tie with him. Anytime a relationship outside of marriage has any level of sexual activity, an ungodly soul tie is formed. At some level or another, a piece of your soul is chipped away every time you make a soul tie sexually or emotionally with another man. These days, most girls have many soul-tied relationships before they ever make it to the altar. God meant for us to have sexual soul ties only in the confines of marriage. When you give any piece of your sexuality away to ungodly relationships, you lose a part of yourself that was only meant to be given to the marriage partner. Some of us have formed so many of these ties before we get to marriage, that once we do marry we feel we don’t have much to give away to our husband. A part of us is missing and we don’t even know why.
In Beth Moore’s Praying God’s Word, she talks about the scriptures in 1 Corinthians 6:13-16. In her book she says, “These scriptures tell us that when we engage in any realm of sexual intimacy with someone besides our marriage partner, we are tying ourselves to them.” She goes on to say, “A soul tie to anyone besides our spouse is outside the will of God and becomes an open target for the continuing, destroying schemes of the devil.”
Do you have any soul ties that are binding you today? Would you take a moment and to ask God if there are any past relationships that you may have formed unhealthy soul ties with?
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Many times in an extramarital relationship the two people not only share their dreams with each other but they discuss all the hurts and disappointments they have with their spouses. The two have shared intimate things together on a soul level. When ungodly soul ties are formed, Satan has legal rights to wreak havoc on you. Sometimes he does so by tormenting you with overwhelming temptations to sin sexually. Understand, not all temptations feel terrible. The sexual temptations can feel good, but what is tormenting it fighting off the temptation to sin! So, what are we to do about ungodly soul ties we have formed?
It has been my experience that we are to break soul ties through prayer. First of all, we can ask in Jesus’ name to break any soul tie we made with another man that was not our husband. We can pray for God to give us back any part of our souls we gave away and we can also pray that we give back any part we took from the other person. There is power in spoken words through prayer. Satan loses his grip on a soul-tied relationship when the name of Jesus is applied. When we do this, it doesn’t mean that you will never think of that person again. Satan will still try to tempt you with thoughts of him. You can pray a simple prayer like this:
Father God, in the name of Jesus, I ask you to break every soul tie I made with _______________________. I pray that any part of me that I gave away to ________________________ would be returned and restored to me. I also ask that any part of _____________________’s soul that he gave to me I give back in full right now in Jesus’ name. Thank you that everything I gave away is being restored to me right now and everything I received from his soul is being returned right now. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.
Say this prayer for each person you formed a soul tie with.
My women’s minister once told me that, “God can restructure the ungodly soul tie into an investment of prayer.” She believes that when Satan tempts us to think of that other person from the past, we can take that as an opportunity to turn it into a prayer.
For example, I always like to pray God’s Word over people. When a thought of someone I had a soul tie with pops in my head, I might pray, “Father, I pray that (their name) would come to know the unfailing love of the Father. I pray that he may come to know your truth and that truth would set him free in any area where he may believe a lie. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen”. Breaking soul ties is just one more way to protect your sexuality from seduction. There is a lot of literature available on soul ties. If you are interested in reading about it in depth, I encourage you to do a search on the web.
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